A couple of weeks ago the Lord showed me in a revelation that I need to break some spiritual ties with some people. I wasn't sure what it was so I did a little research and found a couple of prayers. I did what the Lord told me to do in this regard and went about my day.

Well, the VERY NEXT DAY, one of the women that I "spiritually released" myself from (I suspected that there was an unnatural attachment from her to me so that prayer was right on time) emailed me to say that we don't talk anymore and she wanted to know EVERYTHING that was going on in my life. I kept the conversation very general and broad because I didn't want to give her anything to "attach" to. Honestly, I wasn't prepared for this portion, I thought the prayer would be enough but to my surprise.....

Well anyhoo, over the next course of days she started calling and texting me more than usual (which happens to be alot. If she couldn't find me in the past, she'd call my sister and ask where was I or if I was ok. I always pawned her off as being needy). To that I didn't respond because I had this strong unction in my spirit that she knew something had change. So finally she stop calling and texting and a week of silence lead me to believe she was done. Well after a few indirect messages on my facebook page her husband calls me to ask if anything was wrong with us because he notice that she's been making comments and on the phone talking to others about me and he was worried that something had happened.

I kind of brushed him off a little. Now, I'm wondering how to I proceed from here? Everytime she comes in my mind I thank God that the ties are broken and I continue to cover myself in the blood of Jesus.

I've this woman for a VERY long time and she can be very vindicative.

I don't know what else to do or how else to handle this situation. I don't know...I guess somewhere in my mind I thought I'd break soul ties and she'd just drift away but she's putting up a MAJOR fight.

Any thoughts or prayers on handling this?

Greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world. This person is very controlling. You need to stand your ground and keep your distance. Don't be afraid of her.

I agree with GoldenEagle and would like to add...did you just pray her away? Or did you tell her that you were moving on in a different direction?

If you haven't told HER, then in my opinion you are going about this the wrong way. Yes, prayer is one thing and it's powerful in itself, but the one thing you do not want to do is inflict pain to a person. It seems to me that if she's needy, there is something deeper going on with her. She probably suffers from rejection/abandonment issues and will see things from that perspective. I would pray and ask God to give you the words to say to her that will minister yet also let her understand that you are moving on. There is a way to do that. You don't have to be afraid of her, as GoldenEagle said...just be honest. Honesty is ALWAYS the best route to take.

All of this said in my most humble opinion. Be blessed!

jjp708 wrote:

I've this woman for a VERY long time and she can be very vindicative.

Hi there, I agree with the above authors of the posts and this line stood out to me. DO NOT BE AFRAID of her being very vindicative!!!!!! It's a manipulation from the enemy and fear!!!

I know what you are growing through as I had a friend-collague who liked to control other, keep them under her reach and influence, calling, texting when she wanted but most importanly she liked talking and gossiping and when I realised that I had to stop her involving me into her gossips. She was non-stop talking and telling do not telll anyone and going herself telling other everything people shared with her. Anyway my spirit was not comfortable with this and I didn't want to be controled by her. I just stopped going to coffee shops with her, at work pretended to be very busy, on the phone I told her I was busy couldn't talk for a long time, I just tried to take our contact to a minimum. I knew she was manipulative and could be backbiting me because of my behaviour. BUT I didn't care about that, I was determined to stop her, to take her out of my life cause our friendship was toxic. Even some other colleagues came up to me (messengers from her) asking what went wrong between us, I was responding like everything was ok. After sometime she calmed down, she stopped attacking me with phone calls. Then she left to a different country, different job. I went to her leaving party with beautiful flowers, she was puzzeled but I behaved very friendly but there was already the distance between us and she didn't try to cross the line.

Now you might ask why I didn't talk to her, explained to her everything... As I look back now, I think that may be it would have been better if I talked to her and explained to her certain things but stil not sure how she would react to that or whether she would understand me as it was her nature and I saw that in her, not her. May be it was better to cut the ties like this, drastically.

Anyway, it's been three years now, we reconnected on FB but and she is the same, so I am VERY reserved and cold with her cause she hasn't changed, she is the same and it is my responsibility not to let her into my life the way she used to be in there, not hers or somebody else's.

This is not an advice to act like this but rather an example not to be afraid to stand your ground! If God is directing you to cut the ties with your friend, just keep praying and asking Him. Whatever He has started, He will bring it to the end. He will not leave you without any help or direction with your friend.

This woman is DITTO to the woman in nubava's story. Nubava's it was pretty creepy reading your story because it sound so much like her.

This woman is so controlling that when I went on vacation this spring with another good friend of mine she left tons of text and voicemail messages. Then when I didn't respond (I was in Mexico so phone didn't work) she called my sister for a whole day (my sister was in a seminar) until she answered the phone.

Cholette, no, I didn't explain things to her. I will have if the opportunity presents itself. I will have to take your advice and pray on the correct words.

Thanks everyone for your advice...I will continue to pray and seek guidance regarding this matter.

I think there is a feature on cell phones where you can block numbers. If you decide to talk to her or not, it may be a good thing for you and your sister to check to see if you can do that on your phones. No need for the harrassment.

I think I have to call my service provider. You're right, there's no need for the harrassment and I don't have to be subjected to it either.

It's just a terrible situation that, honestly, I let go on for waaaay too long. I've excused her bahavior because people would say "she just really values your friendship" or they would say "maybe she just never had a real friend" so I would always try to approach the friendship from a different standpoint. But we'd always end up in the same place. She manipulating and me spiritually and emotionally exhausted.

I have been out of pocket the last few days. Preparing for a major test. I have to agree with Cholette here. Remember that Jesus gives us all power against the enemy....Luke 10:19 and dont be afraid to use it. You can plead the blood over the situation also. Remember that nothing crosses the blood line. If Jesus delivered you from the situation to begin with he will give you the tools and the strength to see it through. Hang in girl.

Love in Jesus,

Connie

Dove I know you're going to do GREAT on your test (wise one)!!!

Thanks for the word of encouragment. I am so greatful that I have a place like this forum for honest spiritual advice.

Things are pretty quiet right now so I will continue to seek Christ so that IF things go bonkers again I'll know how to approach the situation. Cholette, I'm going to take your advice and talk to her if she's willing to talk.

I'd pray for strength and wisdom with dealing with this as I agree its one thing to break soul ties in prayer but one may also have to follow through with some affirmative action. I say strength because one may need emotional strength to maintain freedom and wisdom in dealing with the other parties. Just another thought here thats support pp advice. At times those who are being controlling ect dont really realise what they are doing.Their perception of what they do and your reality of what they do differ. Hearing you be clear about the situation, can switch the light on for them also. Ok some people know outright what they are doing and that may be the case with you, but at times they don't realise the real deep impact of their behaviour or the manipulation of the enemy over their own lives.
Either way stand firm in the freedom you have decreed.

Heavenlymama...that was really good advice. THANKS!!!

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Jjp, I know this is an old post, but Im wondering how your situation turned out! I am in a VERY similar situation! This personality MUST have been cloned! I am not great with confrontations, and not looking forward to an event that I am obligated to attend that this old friend will be at soon. I have cut ties with my old friend, but have not had that 'talk' with her on why I ended the friendship. She is the type that is never wrong, and all my other confrontations with her ended in battles and her denying the truth. In my opinion, in my situation, since I know she wont receive my side of why I dont think this friendship is healthy...why waste the energy on a knock down drag out battle. This person is the kind of person though that I dont really want as an 'enemy', but I have learned she is not safe to be in my inner circle. Wondering how your situation turned out, to see if it might help my situation.

Thanks.