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Post by GoldenEagle on Mon Jul 06, 2009 4:23 am

I have been getting closer to a Christian man who I wa sintroduced to by family 3 years ago. Some of the ideas he has been taking on this year do worry me a bit, I'll admit... but last week the cousin who introduced us told me he thinks I shouldn't get involved with this man, although he had tried so hard to set us up in the past! I believe my cousin loves me, but his life is a real mess and part of me wonders if he wants to break up the relationship cos his friend knows things about him which my family don't... on the other hand he could be tryign to spare me heartache. I really don't know what to do... I have to admit that the amn in question does have some real issues, but who doesn't?

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by str82heart on Mon Jul 06, 2009 1:37 pm

Hello!

My input would be to give it time (James 1:19) and test the spirits (1 John 4:1). Everything has a time (Ecclesiates 3:1-8). Be patient, pray and watch the 'fruits' of this persons life. You will get your answer! I would not worry about what anyone else said as you don't know facts yet but make a determination from your own observation and listening to God. Be blessed! :smile:

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Mon Jul 06, 2009 4:40 pm

Thankyou! What you sau is very wise.

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Post by dreamster on Mon Jul 06, 2009 5:01 pm

praying let tha peace of god be ur umpire,, :clap: thumbs flower D


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Mon Jul 06, 2009 5:04 pm

That's just it ... O don't feel any oeace at all but I can't seem to let go. And I have a feeling based on circumstances as well as guts that I am being discussed behind my back.

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Post by dreamster on Mon Jul 06, 2009 8:59 pm

well if u hav no peace aint that a message??,,,um u kant stopp ppl talkin,, bandaid unless theres nothing 2 talk about.. :clap:


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Tue Jul 07, 2009 8:58 am

Hehe... that's so true. You know what, I think I know in my heart of hearts I shouldn't be pursuing this, but I just don't believe I'll find anybody else. In ireland if you're my age and not married you're an embarassment to your family.

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Post by str82heart on Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:19 pm

Remember that God trancends all traditions and customs! At times, he even defied tradition! (Matthew 15:6 NIV) Don't let tradition and custom hold you back when when God can make a way in the wilderness! Trust God and don't look at this situation in the natural but in the spiritual (I Corinthians 5:7).

I would also encourage you to begin seeking God's Face for your future husband and BELIEVE that God will not give you a snake if you ask for a fish! (Matthew 7:10) Remember: the devil will usually put out his best before God puts out His Best! You must be patient and wait upon the Lord if you really want the man God has for you. Don't settle for second best. You won't be happy in the long run.

I would pray for God to give me the strength to break this relationship off in a peaceful way and it will be very important for you to do whatever it takes to keep yourself built up in your most holy faith (Hebrews 11) such as a prayer partner, church, Christian music, keeping your thoughts in check and so on while you wait on God so that you can stand against the wiles of the enemy (Ephesians 6).

I pray this encourages you and that you find hope and direction! As for others talking about you behind your back: if you are innocent of the accusation-don't worry about it. Jesus was talked about, too. However, if you are guilty of what they are saying, repent.

Be blessed! :HiBye:

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:03 pm

Thankyou! what you say is right. Much love!

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Post by dreamster on Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:09 pm

um tell ur family 2 getta life,,, Banned we dont havta conform 2 these strange traditions,,just be u,,, Cheering flower lol! D


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Post by GoldenEagle on Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:20 pm

My family aren't really like that... it's just Irish culture and I think general Western culture that says if you're in your 30s and single, you're unusual.... christianitytoday's singles forum is full of ppl from all over the place who feel the same! I don't think ppl who are married really understand.

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Post by dreamster on Tue Jul 07, 2009 2:44 pm

ok it sounded like ur family,,but its a general thang,,um i get u,, thumbs um its a issue indeed,,,,i kno ppl in that boat it is tuff ,,, :uhoh: um but u gotta be u ,,dont be pressured,,, :clap: flower D


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Wed Jul 08, 2009 3:23 am

Thanks - btw I love that blue flower at the end!

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Post by dreamster on Wed Jul 08, 2009 1:15 pm

ohh ,,,here hava bunch,, flower flower flower flower flower flower :clap: lol! anda free huggins huggins 2


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Wed Jul 08, 2009 1:20 pm

THANKYOU!

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by lola21st on Wed Jul 08, 2009 2:03 pm

GoldenEagle wrote:...In ireland if you're my age and not married you're an embarassment to your family.

Sarah would'nt have fared very well there! flower While her issue was parenthood rather than marriage, the same principle applies - everything happens in God's perfect timing.

It's very hard to be single these days without feeling like you're being judged to some degree and perhaps even more so in the Church. Ok, maybe "being judged" is a harsh way to describe it but while people have good intentions and try to be encouraging to singles, it feels like pressure regardless of whether one is happily single or desperately trying to find Boaz/Ruth.

I would suggest a period of fasting and praying about the relationship to really hear God's perspective on it before you act. And I would offer 2 Tim 1:7:

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

If you don't have a sound mind regarding the relationship, then be honest about whether it's something that you should pursue seeking God's will for you in the matter. Be encouraged, if this is not the man that God has for you, look out and plan to be amazed! thumbs flower flower flower Flower Power (more blue flowers... lol! )

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by dreamster on Wed Jul 08, 2009 2:29 pm

:clap: good lurdys,,i wood be blunt wiv tha lord an urself,,and try not 2 disguise ur tru feelings,,rather than put on a image that ohers r projecting,,if u realy like the guy just say so..even if its not the best choice,atleast start frm ther,,then see wat develops either way ..ther my Two Cents flower


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Thu Jul 09, 2009 2:00 pm

Thanks, afterall 'The LORD desires truth in the inmost parts'.

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Post by dreamster on Fri Jul 10, 2009 2:00 am

:clap: thumbs yep flower flower flower D


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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by Delightful soul on Fri Jul 10, 2009 5:36 am

Hi Golden Eagle,

I should really not say much since I have recently broken up with a man....but I will encourage you to not pursue something if you feel uneasy about it but also to follow the wisdom said here to allow time to tell.

When I was praying about my boyfriend right at the start of the relationship God said "time will tell" that's all I got, whereas my boyfriend was so sure I was "the one".......

turned out after time that he had very opposing ideas to me, like he believed in astrology(even though he pretended not to at the start), he also did not believe that God could speak directly to me.....other stuff aswell which I prefer not to put on here but God was showing me clearly that he was not the one. But I held on tight to him till he broke up with me.........and he was the one who was so sure????

Praise God I say for being single in the 30s. There are lots of singles in their 30s in this world including non christians-they just sleep around , whereas we christians have to be celebate and control our desires which is hard and so the devil tries anyway he can to make us feel small and unwanted when really the rest of the world is acting crazy by chasing rainbows that aren't there...

The truth is I believe is there is one person out there for us that God knows is the right person to marry if we really desire a mate. So don't give up on meeting the right person. Let time tell the truth about this man my friend and don't go where angels fear to tred and jump in too soon. Be wise and don't get into a bad relationship thinking it is better than no relationship like I did.....a broken heart is all you will have to show if you do. Alternatlively if he is the right one, time will tell and you will have patiently waited to find out that you met the right one, either way patience and wisdom are to always be your friend............don't forget to use common sense too........if if looks like a duck and quacks like one, it is a DUCK!

God bless and I hope my bitterness has not come through too much and that I have told the truth in love as best as possible.

God bless,


Claire :kitty:

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by GoldenEagle on Fri Jul 10, 2009 3:47 pm

ASnd if it practsies transcendental meditation, it's probably a duck, too! Cos that's a spirit at enmity with mine....

I'm sorry you had such a rough time. I hope things are looking up. x

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by Delightful soul on Fri Jul 10, 2009 6:22 pm

yep, that sort of thing is the occult hey as you already know probabley and they are opposing spirits definatley!

Anyhow, i did have a rough time, but I asked for it ! lol!

My eyes were wide open and I wanted relationship so badly that I was willing to make hurtful and damaging sacrifices.

God bless and thank God for sayings about ducks! :cute:

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by somethingnew04 on Wed Jul 15, 2009 12:14 pm

Let the peace of God that surpasses all understanding to be your guide...... Don't rush into any relationships that you're not comfortable with....If you do....Oh well ....whatever happens will be called EXPERIENCE! LOL

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by 2livisChrist on Sun Jul 19, 2009 9:51 pm

GoldenEagle wrote:I have been getting closer to a Christian man who I wa sintroduced to by family 3 years ago. Some of the ideas he has been taking on this year do worry me a bit, I'll admit... but last week the cousin who introduced us told me he thinks I shouldn't get involved with this man, although he had tried so hard to set us up in the past! I believe my cousin loves me, but his life is a real mess and part of me wonders if he wants to break up the relationship cos his friend knows things about him which my family don't... on the other hand he could be tryign to spare me heartache. I really don't know what to do... I have to admit that the amn in question does have some real issues, but who doesn't?

Hi GoldenEagle, if this man is saying things or thinking things that differ with what God and his holy Word says, then you have to question if he is a true believer in Christ Jesus. If he is not displaying the fruit of the Holy Spirit then he is not born again. You should be feeling trust in him and honesty and a stable mind. Anything less would cause me doubt and confussion also...and we know God is not a god of confussion. Confussion comes from the evil one.
Pray for Gods guidance before continuing in a permanent (and possibly out of control) relationship. Try talking with him about his ideas and why he looks at them the way he does. See if you can possibly us scriputre to prove his ideas are false.Not to make him feel bad but to help him to see and understand the truth and your concerns.
Pray for God's wisdom to be inside of you before you begin.

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Re: Making a big mistake

Post by HisLightbeam on Sun Jul 19, 2009 9:56 pm

My aunt was 51 and a virgin when she got married, and very happily I might add. Very beautiful octaroon, with long black hair, but saved, and she waited, and married a pastor. Have strong faith and wait. Not saying that you have to wait 19 more years, but when God blesses you, He blesses you real good, and it will be satisfying and fruitful.

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