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Post by Deborah on Wed Jul 24, 2013 9:00 am

I dreamed I caught my husband smoking and I was furious! My adult son and I got in a vehicle and drove 4 hours and stopped at a restaurant. I walked into the ladies' restroom there and started planting flowers and trees in pots. I must have planted about 50 things. I was thinking it would be a good way to get the plants established before spring. (It was winter in my dream.) Then I walked out of the restroom and the restaurant was closed. Some lively Russian music was playing and the owner's children were doing some special ethnic dance. I sensed the owner of the restaurant was very wise and could counsel me about my husband. I wondered where my son was, though, and wanted to find him before I started a conversation with the owner. I was also not 100 percent sure I could trust the owner although I could feel great peace around him and his children. The owner was tall, muscular and he had black hair. I don't recall him talking to me, more like he was waiting for me to talk to him. I looked for my cell phone to call my son but I couldn't find it.eod

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Re: husband smoking and a Russian restaurant

Post by Deborah on Sat Jul 27, 2013 11:54 am

Last night my husband and son checked into a hotel. My husband said when he crawled into bed there was a can of chewing tobacco between the sheets. He was too tired to go complain at the front desk, but he said he could smell the tobacco all night. Our son too had a restless sleep in his bed. My husband used to chew tobacco so I think the dream was a warning of temptation coming up. My husband said the tobacco "smelled nasty," and he didn't have any.


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Post by Cholette on Sat Jul 27, 2013 1:02 pm

Deborah remain in prayer for your husband because those feelings you had in the dream were there for a reason. "Furious" is a strong word and  the fact that the temptation came doesnt mean that the enemy won't keep coming after him to try to break him down to give in. 

Wow, God is good! He warns us so we can pray to keep the enemy away.


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Post by Deborah on Sat Jul 27, 2013 4:35 pm

Yes, Cholette, you are right. God is good. I'm just realizing there's more to this dream that has come to pass.

First of all, I had the feeling the restaurant symbolized a place where I could get spiritual food. Yesterday, I was watching a Christian talk show. There was a guest on (who looked like the guy in my dream; he had very dark hair) who is a counselor. Specifically he counsels men who are hooked on pornography. He said something very interesting.

It says in 1 John 1:9 that if we confess our sins God is righteous and just to FORGIVE us our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

But then in James 5:16 it says "confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be HEALED."

So there's tons of people in our churches who have confessed their sins to God and have received forgiveness, but yet they're still in bondage. Why? Because they haven't confessed their sins to another person and remained accountable to that person and therefore haven't been HEALED.

My husband has fought many addictions in his life--he stops one and then another pops up in its place. It didn't help we were once in a church where those who admitted they had an addiction were publicly shamed. (!!!!makes me mad to think about it!!)

So anyway, I think this dream foretold my husband would be facing a temptation, but then it also showed a way out: the key of confessing one's sin to another person in order to get healed.

And the furious part? I hate, hate, hate cigarettes!!!! I'd catch my in-laws smoking in front of my infant son, my son would get bronchitis and my in-laws and I had some knock-out, drag-down fights over this issue. I was called over protective and well I could go on and on but yes, this particular addiction makes me see red. I think I saw cigarettes in my dream to make me take it seriously initially and really, really pray.

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Re: husband smoking and a Russian restaurant

Post by dreamster on Sat Jul 27, 2013 8:15 pm

i think u shud target the root of the addicktion, therby cutting down the tree and its branches,,as addictions take many forms and substances,,u really need a revelatuin ''now'' werd to bring release, too many hours are wasted on cutting off the ugly fruit ,wen ppl shud chop the tree an dig out the roots,, i wud consider the issue started way bak, nerd  it can be a pikture of someone trying 2 fill a void in ther lives, bandaid scratching chin unsuccessfully, ,,

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Post by Cholette on Mon Jul 29, 2013 9:08 am

dreamster wrote:i think u shud target the root of the addicktion, therby cutting down the tree and its branches,,as addictions take many forms and substances,,u really need a revelatuin ''now'' werd to bring release, too many hours are wasted on cutting off the ugly fruit ,wen ppl shud chop the tree an dig out the roots,, i wud consider the issue started way bak, nerd  it can be a pikture of someone trying 2 fill a void in ther lives, bandaid scratching chin unsuccessfully, ,,

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Post by silentqueen on Mon Jul 29, 2013 2:15 pm

Deborah,

I am in prayer for your husband and you.

So there's tons of people in our churches who have confessed their sins to God and have received forgiveness, but yet they're still in bondage. Why? Because they haven't confessed their sins to another person and remained accountable to that person and therefore haven't been HEALED.

My husband has fought many addictions in his life--he stops one and then another pops up in its place. It didn't help we were once in a church where those who admitted they had an addiction were publicly shamed. (!!!!makes me mad to think about it!!)

I am going to ask you and your husband to forgive us for our ignorance and for being unmerciful. 21 But now the righteousness of God apart from the law is revealed, being witnessed by the Law and the Prophets, 22 even the righteousness of God, through faith in Jesus Christ, to all and on all who believe. For there is no difference; 23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Romans 3:21-23)

Sometimes, I think we forget that our flesh is dangerous and it must continually be brought under subjection. If we’re caught at the wrong time, we are all capable to giving in to it. No one has a right to condemn your husband. I’m sure that if God gave you a peek into their closets many skeletons would jump out.

I was struggling with something for a long time; a very long time. I was operating in ministry and still struggling. I had to pray in the spirit and use the Word to combat it. It’s the only thing that worked. I was not delivered overnight. It was a process. As I continued to pray and speak God’s Word, I noticed that one day this issue was gone.

What I do know about the struggle is that no one condemned me more than I condemned myself. I would venture a guess and say your husband beats himself more than anyone else because he does love God and he wants to walk uprightly. Yet, he finds himself in these moments of weakness. When he succumbs to them, he can’t even really enjoy it because of presence of the Holy Spirit. As the Holy Spirit was ministering to me during this time, I remember Him saying to me, “Daughter, you are mine. You will never be comfortable with sin.” He was right. When I did have slip-ups, I would lie on the floor before God and cry like a baby or I couldn’t sleep because the thoughts of what I’d done plagued me. More than anything, a true believer is messed up when we disappoint God with our behavior.

I had to learn the hard way after the traditional churches and ultra-conservative denominations that God wasn’t sitting in heaven as a tyrant waiting on me to sin so He could punish me. It should have been easy, but it was difficult because of the condemnation and the fear of confessing my faults. I’d heard one time too many across the pulpit that if you participate in certain behavior that you are not saved. So I wasn’t about to share my struggles with anybody there.
Be encouraged, Deborah and know that you are not alone. We are praying for your husband’s complete deliverance. This is the scripture that came to me….


Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling,
And to present you faultless
Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy,
To God our Savior
Who alone is wise,
Be glory and majesty,
Dominion and power
Both now and forever. (Jude 24-25)

God bless,

Marla


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Re: husband smoking and a Russian restaurant

Post by Deborah on Mon Jul 29, 2013 7:27 pm

Cholette and Dreamster, I think you need to consider that confessing your sins to one another is from God's own Word. This isn't something that counselor or I just made up. That counselor has been working for 25 years and has seen thousands of men freed from pornography so based on that plus it's straight from the Word it deserves listening to. My husband and I have been around prophets and prophetic people for years and years so what do we do? Put our life on hold until someone gets a word? Stay in bondage until then when the Word itself gives a key that has helped many? I think not.
Marla, I really appreciate your comments. I really especially appreciate your prayers. And thank God you've been set free! I'm sure your experience has made you a better minister.

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Post by Cholette on Mon Jul 29, 2013 9:06 pm

Deborah...what did you read that caused you to think that what was said was not In Full support of what you are going through? Dealing with the root of anything is scriptural and I'm not sure if you misinterpreted what was said. God ALWAYS works from the inside out and no one mentioned to remain in bondage...the opposite was suggested...which is dealing with the root of the issue.  The root isn't the addiction...its something else and I believe that is what Dreamster was trying to relate. 

Sorry for the confusion...


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Re: husband smoking and a Russian restaurant

Post by dreamster on Mon Jul 29, 2013 10:10 pm

:yeahthat: :thanks: 

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