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Post by gamma3 on Sun Nov 07, 2010 9:38 am

Hi,
I am new here. I am in the process of a divorce from an emotionally abusive situation. I believe that it is true God hates divorce however there has to be a marriage for there to be a divorce. If a man is abusive and unhealthy to the point that he mistreats, curses, hits, neglects, accuses falsely, the woman he is sleeping with I know that it is not a marriage but a situation. I do believe that the parameters for marriage is that the two become one and the woman is loved like Jesus loves the church and a woman desires her husband. There is forsaking others and cleaving. Abuse makes none of that possible. That's just what I have found out. As a child of an abusive childhood, it takes years to undo the messages that you get about your worth when an abuser is in a position of power and is supported as being worth more than you because that's who gets all the prayer and attention. When they curse the God everyone is praying to for help it gets very painful and distorting.
I am so grateful to find a place to look up information about my dreams. I have been seeing visions that have come to pass since I was 5. God has been so faithful and now as I am being delivered from the soul ties and having my eyes opened to truth I am still being warned and instructed. I stopped trusting while I was entangled with my abuser. 8 years.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Cholette on Sun Nov 07, 2010 2:55 pm

gamma3 wrote:Hi,
I am new here. I am in the process of a divorce from an emotionally abusive situation. I believe that it is true God hates divorce however there has to be a marriage for there to be a divorce. If a man is abusive and unhealthy to the point that he mistreats, curses, hits, neglects, accuses falsely, the woman he is sleeping with I know that it is not a marriage but a situation. I do believe that the parameters for marriage is that the two become one and the woman is loved like Jesus loves the church and a woman desires her husband. There is forsaking others and cleaving. Abuse makes none of that possible. That's just what I have found out. As a child of an abusive childhood, it takes years to undo the messages that you get about your worth when an abuser is in a position of power and is supported as being worth more than you because that's who gets all the prayer and attention. When they curse the God everyone is praying to for help it gets very painful and distorting.
I am so grateful to find a place to look up information about my dreams. I have been seeing visions that have come to pass since I was 5. God has been so faithful and now as I am being delivered from the soul ties and having my eyes opened to truth I am still being warned and instructed. I stopped trusting while I was entangled with my abuser. 8 years.

You've made some EXCELLENT points here Gamma3. WELCOME TO THE BOARD!!!!!!


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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Sun Nov 07, 2010 10:22 pm

Thanks Gamma3, for your reply and like Cholette said you've made great points here. I've never thought of it this way.

I wish it wasn't so difficult to get out of this situation!! I really love my husband although he doesn't treat us the right way most of the time. And I think it is because I still love him (although I don't have much respect left for him) that makes it so difficult. Also, the children really love him. Like I said, he isn't always bad, but most of the time I'm not happy because of his behaviour.

It feels like I'm going mad. I can't discern between what's right or wrong behaviour from my husband anymore. I don't know how to explain this to you guys. I'll try, I think because this has been going on for so long you get kind of brain washed that it is okay (although deep down I know it's not okay). Sorry you guys, it is very difficult for me to explain this and english isn't my home language, so sometimes it is difficult to express something in english. Like for instance, the drinking with his friends. I don't complain about that to him, because most of the time he has to take out clients. So for him it is a convenient excuse to go out and drink and his boss expect that of him (to take out their clients). I've become so used to this behaviour. Ugh, I feel very confused, really. It sometimes really feels as if I'm loosing my mind, because I don't know what to do.

I'm also scared that he might loose it when I tell him I want a divorce. He once told me that if I want to leave him, I musn't think that I will take our children with me!! That is a threat. It scares me a bit, because I don't know what he will be capable of doing. Not that he has ever physically hurt me or the children, but you never know in what kind of state that would leave him.

Please just pray for me and the children guys. Please pray like myself that God would give me strength to either talk to him to get help, or just strenghth to get out.

I have told him a few times before that he needs help and he just laughs it off or once told me to .... off (sorry for this). Maybe if I tell him that I'm going to leave him if he won't get help he'll take it more seriously, I don't know. I wish I had a stronger personality. I always feel sorry for people no matter what they've done to me. I'm always the one who forgives very easily no matter what the situation is and in this situation my personality isn't helping me or my children very much, it is a burden to me. I don't know what to do.

I just once again want to thank you guys. With all your words I am seeing a little light and understant better that I don't have to stay in this situation, I just wish I was a stronger person.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Sun Nov 07, 2010 11:12 pm

Last night God reminded me of this dream I had a while back. I posted the dream under "Dreams and Visions to be interpreted" a while back. What is striking to me is that the first house in the dream is my childhood home (me, my brother and mother stayed in that house) and the second part of the dream where me, my little girl and my husbands boss' little girl is driving around also got my attention, because the house that we are living in now is in the street that I dreamt of. In the dream it was raining while I was driving around and IRL when me and my two children went to look at this house it was also raining. I dreamt of our new house quite a while back and we moved to our house 5 months back. Since we moved to that house things really got rough with my husband. Here is the dream:

I had a very strange dream. I dreamt that we were in our new house (IRL we are looking for a new house to move into). It was really beautifull and spacious with a beautifull garden. I felt so happy and and peace there.

The first night in the house I went to the front door to lock it. I remember the door - it was a beautifull wooden and glass door which really caught my attention. There was colour in the door as well. All of a sudden a frog (not very big about medium size) came jumping into the house underneath the door. I was so scared 'cause IRL I have a huge fear of frogs! When this frog came in I jumped into the air - very high. I was surprised at the ability of how high I could jump. I had my back against the wall and with my feet against a wooden rack infront of me. The frog jumped throughout the living room. I heard it making sss sounds and becoming violent as if it knew it wasn't welcome in the house. I called my husband to come and catch it and take it out. My husband came and as he bent down to take the frog I could see it is a poisonous frog. I also thought to myself that I just hope that my hubby don't tease me with this frog 'cause I have such a fear for frogs. Then what I thought happened! He took the frog and pressed it against my face of all places! I felt like a little girl again, so scared. He told me that this was the only way I would get over my fear. It was horrible! Then my hubby took out the frog and went to a place next door. There he threw the frog to another creature that looked like a tortoise and some furry animal combined. The creature looked cute and cuddly, but I knew it was hostile and dangerous.

Then we were in the house again and when we wanted to go to bed the kids woke up. They were wide awake and wouldn't go back to sleep. I came into the bathroom and saw my two kids and friends of ours (my husbands boss) daughter in the bath with lots of foam just having fun.

I looked at a picture of 3 people, two men and one lady. They were all between the ages of about 55 and 60. I got the impression that they were very wise people and they had walked a long way with the Lord. 3 Light beams were shining from heaven onto each persons head. When I looked closer I could see that they were in conversation. I saw that one of the light beams went into the man on the rights ear. He heard from the Lord (that is what the light beam was) and then He would say to the other two what God had said. The Holy Spirit was present in this photo.

Then all of a sudden I was driving in my car with my baby girl and our friends daughter. My little boy was with my husband at home. It was still night time. It was as if we haven't moved into the new house yet and was still staying in our current house. I wanted to go and have a look if this light beam might be shining on our new house. I looked at the two kids and they were asleep. I came to a crossing and I had to turn to the right to get to the new house. When I was in this street there was total darkness around me. The lights of my car wasn't working anymore!! I saw 3 cats running across the street in front of me. I couldn't see anything. I was so scared to make an accident. I cannot explain the fear that was inside of me. I couldn't see where I was going. I tried switching the lights on and off, but couldn't get it to work again. In front of the new house I turned the car around (like in the movies with high speed). I was facing the way I came and still the lights weren't working! I woke up from the dream but was so troubled about all of this that I had to get up just to relax.

This really felt like a warning dream. But for what? I don't understand that I wanted to see if the light beam (Holy Spirit) was present at the new house and when I got there I was in total darkness. I have walked with Jesus for quite a while now although my husband isn't as close to God, I'm still praying for him every day. I'm confused.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Delightful soul on Mon Nov 08, 2010 12:28 am

[quote] i'll USE CAPITALS SO YOU KNOW IT'S ME.....D/SI had a very strange dream. I dreamt that we were in our new house (IRL we are looking for a new house to move into). It was really beautifull and spacious with a beautifull garden. I felt so happy and and peace there.

The first night in the house I went to the front door to lock it.TRYING TO PROTECT YOURSELF AND FAMILY I remember the door - it was a beautifull wooden and glass door which really caught my attention. There was colour in the door as well. All of a sudden a frog (not very big about medium size) came jumping into the house underneath the door. I was so scared 'cause IRL I have a huge fear of frogs!FROGS WERE PART OF THE PLAGUE IN THE BIBLE WHEN GOD TOLD MOSES TO TELL EGYPT TO 'LET MY PEOPLE GO' When this frog came in I jumped into the air - very high. I was surprised at the ability of how high I could jump. I had my back against the wall and with my feet against a wooden rack infront of me. The frog jumped throughout the living room.THIS IS YOUR SPACE...A FROG SHOULD NOT BE HERE..... I heard it making sss sounds and becoming violent as if it knew it wasn't welcome in the house. I called my husband to come and catch it and take it out. My husband came and as he bent down to take the frog I could see it is a poisonous frog. I also thought to myself that I just hope that my hubby don't tease me with this frog 'cause I have such a fear for frogs. Then what I thought happened!YOUR FEARS HAVE COME TO PASS He took the frog and pressed it against my face of all places!HE'S NOT BACKWARDS IN COMING FORWARDS...THAT IS HE IS SCARING YOU TO YOUR FACE... I felt like a little girl again, so scared. He told me that this was the only way I would get over my fear.PERHAPS HE IS MAKING YOU FEEL LIKE A KID WHERE YOU DON'T HAVE MANY CHOICES....AND YOU ARE FEELING LIKE A LITTLE FRIGHTENED CHILD.... It was horrible! Then my hubby took out the frog and went to a place next door. There he threw the frog to another creature that looked like a tortoise and some furry animal combined. The creature looked cute and cuddly, but I knew it was hostile and dangerous.SOMETHING LOOKS HARMLESS BUT YOU KNOW IT IS NOT...

Then we were in the house again and when we wanted to go to bed the kids woke THE KIDS ARE AWARE AND IT IS DISTURBING THEIR PEACE...SLEEP PERHAPS? up. They were wide awake and wouldn't go back to sleep. I came into the bathroom and saw my two kids and friends of ours (my husbands boss) daughter in the bath with lots of foam just having fun. INNOCENCE AND JOY KIDS BRING

I looked at a picture of 3 people, two men and one lady.STRENGTH AND INTUITION.....3 ( please look THIS UP ON WEBSITE: http://www.biblestudy.org/bibleref/meaning-of-numbers-in-bible/3.html Three, therefore, stands for that which is solid, real, substantial, complete, and entire. )

They were all between the ages of about 55 and 60. AGED AND WISE......I got the impression that they were very wise people and they had walked a long way with the Lord. 3 Light beams were shining from heaven onto each persons head. PEACE LIKE WHEN THE DOVE WAS SEEN BY JOHN THE BAPTIST OVER JESUS WHEN IT DESCENDED LIKE A DOVE - THE HOLY SPIRIT....When I looked closer I could see that they were in conversation. I saw that one of the light beams went into the man on the rights ear. He heard from the Lord (that is what the light beam was) and then He would say to the other two what God had said. The Holy Spirit was present in this photo.
THE LIGHT IS THERE TO SHINE IN THE DARKNESS........THE HOLYSPIRIT WANTS TO SHINE THE LIGHT ON YOUR SITUATION/DREAM....
Then all of a sudden I was driving in my car THE CONTROL IN YOUR LIFE...with my baby girl and our friends daughter. My little boy was with my husband at home. It was still night time. YOU FEEL COMPLETLEY IN THE DARK......NOT KNOWING....It was as if we haven't moved into the new house yet and was still staying in our current house. I wanted to go and have a look if this light beam might be shining on our new house. I looked at the two kids and they were asleep. I came to a crossing and I had to turn to the right to get to the new house. When I was in this street there was total darkness around me. The lights of my car wasn't working anymore!! THE LIGHTS IN THE PICTURE MEAN HOLY SPIRIT, SEEK GOD FOR WHAT THE LIGHT OR LACK OF IT MEANS........I saw 3 THE NUMBER 3 KEEPS RECURRING....TAKE NOTE OF THE MEANING OF 3 FROM WEBSITE ABOVE....cats running across the street in front of me. I couldn't see anything. I was so scared to make an accident.DO YOU FEEL SCARED TO MAKE ACCIDENTS, MISTAKES IN REAL LIFE...DO YOU FEEL IN THE DARK WHERE THE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE IS CONCERNED? I cannot explain the fear that was inside of me. I couldn't see where I was going. I tried switching the lights on and off, but couldn't get it to work againYOUR ATTEMPTS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE IN YOUR NEW HOME WORK PERHAPS?. In front of the new house I turned the car around (like in the movies with high speed). I was facing the way I came and still the lights weren't working! YOU ARE WANTING TO TURN AWAY OUT OF THIS SITUATION/STREET BUT YOU NEED THE ILLUMINATION OF THE HOLY SPIRIT TO NAVIAGATE YOUR WAY OUT...I woke up from the dream but was so troubled about all of this that I had to get up just to relax.

This really felt like a warning dream. I AGREE.......But for what? I don't understand that I wanted to see if the light beam (Holy Spirit) was present at the new house and when I got there I was in total darkness. I have walked with Jesus for quite a while now although my husband isn't as close to God, I'm still praying for him every day. I'm confused.

Blessings
xxx.

IT'S REALLY HARD HAVING READ YOUR ABOVE COMMENTS BEFORE THE DREAM ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND THE TROUBLES YOU FEEL YOU HAVE TO ACTUALLY NOT BE BIASED IN THE DREAM BUT I DEFINATELY FEEL IT IS A WARNING DREAM FOR YOU AND A GUIDE TO HELP YOU NAVIGATE YOUR WAY OUT OF THE FEAR AND DARKNESS YOU ARE FEELING IN THIS SITUATION......THE DARKNESS I WOULD SAY IS MORE OF A NOT KNOWING HOW TO NAVIGATE YOUR WAY OUT OF THE TROUBLE YOU ARE FEELING.......


I HOPE THIS RESONATES WITH YOU .....if not please disregard.........blessings.......[quote]

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Mon Nov 08, 2010 4:25 am

Hey DS, thanks for you interp of the dream. I think you are very much correct about a lot of stuff. The frog part where my husband takes the frog and feed it to the other evil creature may also mean that satan feeds on my fear. Like if you feed something it gets bigger. The more I fear, the worse the situation will get. Don't know, that just came to mind. And like you said the evil creature looking innocent could resemble a situation I'm in that is more dangerous than I believe it to be.

Thanks again for you help :kissyface:

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by gamma3 on Mon Nov 08, 2010 8:49 am


Wow on the response to the dream. I have seen visions in dreams all my life and agree that God will use things to symbolize in order to help us by items we can relate to. I really wish that I could share a dream I had recently with you to hear your view.
About the abusive husband again. I read a book about men who hate women and the women who love them. It opened my eyes to how I had such deep issues from my abuse as a child and how I loved in the face of not being loved back. Like a sacrifice of my self, as if I had no value. Anyway I began to realize my husband was kind to others but not to me. He suffers from issues deep within himself that have to do with his childhood as well and his self hate needs a target. He did not see me as worthless and powerless he worked hard to try to tear me down. I too became brain washed that he was good and I had issues because I wanted something from him. I wanted what he could not give, he hated himself and me for that. When I realized the dynamics of a misogynist, I prayed for God to heal me and deliver me from the power of the lies I had believed. I will pray for the power of the lies to be revealed so that you can begin to see the truth you already are being warned by and comforted by in the wisdom of these wonderful people who respond to you.
Thank you all for allowing me to be here. I really needed someplace to be during this transition in my life.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Virtuous on Mon Nov 08, 2010 11:24 am

gamma3 wrote:Hi,
I am new here. I am in the process of a divorce from an emotionally abusive situation. I believe that it is true God hates divorce however there has to be a marriage for there to be a divorce. If a man is abusive and unhealthy to the point that he mistreats, curses, hits, neglects, accuses falsely, the woman he is sleeping with I know that it is not a marriage but a situation. I do believe that the parameters for marriage is that the two become one and the woman is loved like Jesus loves the church and a woman desires her husband. There is forsaking others and cleaving. Abuse makes none of that possible. That's just what I have found out. As a child of an abusive childhood, it takes years to undo the messages that you get about your worth when an abuser is in a position of power and is supported as being worth more than you because that's who gets all the prayer and attention. When they curse the God everyone is praying to for help it gets very painful and distorting.
I am so grateful to find a place to look up information about my dreams. I have been seeing visions that have come to pass since I was 5. God has been so faithful and now as I am being delivered from the soul ties and having my eyes opened to truth I am still being warned and instructed. I stopped trusting while I was entangled with my abuser. 8 years.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Delightful soul on Mon Nov 08, 2010 11:41 pm

that is cool S...I'm glad I could help out with the dream you had and yes I agree with you that fear once it grows or rather is tolerated and allowed to grow in ones mind, becomes a stronghold and it may look innocent, but is dangerous in that it debilitates us into doing nothing......imagine a war with satan and he was able to scare all the soldiers into being so afraid they just froze.........so much easier than using artilery really which is why he uses fear to bind us.........we need to bind satan and also stand up for righteousness in that if a person uses intimidation, (which is what your hubby did when he threatened you about the kids) he was basically trying to frighten you........if you have to be manipulated and given scare tactics to stay in the marriage you have to ask yourself why your hubby would do that......

I'm in agreeance with all here who have said we cannot tell you what is best, but if you allow wisdom and the holy spirit to guide you out of fear, you will be able to navigate your way out of this nightmare of yours that you feel you are in.......

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Post by Dove-Solutions on Tue Nov 09, 2010 4:32 am

Delightful soul wrote:that is cool S...I'm glad I could help out with the dream you had and yes I agree with you that fear once it grows or rather is tolerated and allowed to grow in ones mind, becomes a stronghold and it may look innocent, but is dangerous in that it debilitates us into doing nothing......imagine a war with satan and he was able to scare all the soldiers into being so afraid they just froze.........so much easier than using artilery really which is why he uses fear to bind us.........we need to bind satan and also stand up for righteousness in that if a person uses intimidation, (which is what your hubby did when he threatened you about the kids) he was basically trying to frighten you........if you have to be manipulated and given scare tactics to stay in the marriage you have to ask yourself why your hubby would do that......

I'm in agreeance with all here who have said we cannot tell you what is best, but if you allow wisdom and the holy spirit to guide you out of fear, you will be able to navigate your way out of this nightmare of yours that you feel you are in.......

blessings

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Fri Nov 12, 2010 5:13 am

Heya, me again. Guys I'm going to talk to my husband tonight about all of this and tell him that if he doesn't consider getting help I will be forced to leave him. I can not go on another day like this. Today was just too much for me, was crying the whole day and very depressed.

Please just pray for me and tha my husband won't loose it tonight. I hope is will be calm when I speak to him.

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Post by Dove-Solutions on Fri Nov 12, 2010 5:20 am

Girl my hubby and I are gonna be praying for you.

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Post by Sirianta on Fri Nov 12, 2010 5:42 am

Thanks Connie, really appreciate it. I'm so nervous. Don't know what to expect.

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Post by Delightful soul on Fri Nov 12, 2010 6:04 am

I pray you and JEsus be strong in this situation right now, I plead the blood of Jesus over you and your hubby and pray for peace and for an outcome of hope and love and that you would have courage to tell him how you feel.........

word of wisdom; if you have yet to speak to him, tell him how you feel when he does or says or doesn't say..........whatever goes on that you feel unhappy about,,,,,,the big "i feel , when you.........do/say..........." is the best conversation help I have had...........you may have heard this before but thought to mention it..........

Courage sister and wisdom........

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Post by Deborah on Fri Nov 12, 2010 6:34 am

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Post by Sirianta on Fri Nov 12, 2010 6:40 am

Thank you guys!!

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by lola21st on Fri Nov 12, 2010 9:48 am

Father, I thank You for Sirianta and pray that You would anoint her and give her a spirit of wisdom and discernment to have this discussion with her husband. May his heart be softened so that he can receive that Sirianta shares with him. Thank You for the hedge of protection that Your angels have formed around Sirianta. Because I know Your love for Sirianta and her husband abounds and I know that you have great plans for both of them, I pray that Your perfect will be done in their marriage and that it be transformed in a way that they know could only have come through You so that You are glorified and greatly praised. In Jesus' name, amen!


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Post by Dove-Solutions on Sun Nov 14, 2010 5:36 am

Sirianta,

How did it go with your hubby?

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Mon Nov 15, 2010 12:44 am

Hey guys, first of all thank you so much for each prayer that went up to our Father.

Well, I told him everything that was on my heart and to my surprise he was very calm and understanding. He even admitted that he has anger issues and that he will go to the chemist to get some medication. I told him that I rather think he should go see a doctor who can give him a subscription for something that would really help. He agreed to that.

I am so glad and hope that things will just get better for both of us. It just feels like God doesn't want me to leave him, that God has a plan for our marriage.

THANKS AGAIN FOR ALL THE PRAYERS!!!!

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Post by Delightful soul on Mon Nov 15, 2010 12:58 am

awwww isn't God good.........that is lovely.........i pray things continue in peace and that HIs will be done in your marriage. thumbs

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Post by Dove-Solutions on Mon Nov 15, 2010 5:28 am

Siriata,

I am so glad things went well for you. Feel free to ask for prayer anytime. Praise the Lord for answered prayer.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Sirianta on Sun Nov 21, 2010 10:32 am

Hi, me again. You guys this is really tough. The last week I could really see that my husband tried his best, but this weekend we had his works' yearend function at a holiday resort. Yesterday my little boy got a little difficult because he was very tired after swimming the whole day and just being bussy like little children are. So my husband lost it completely, he grabbed him and put him over his legs and gave him one huge hit on the behind. Everyone was quiet and it was such an imbarrasing moment in front of all the people. About 3 hours there was still a hand mark on my sons bum. Even my husbands boss told him this morning that it was really not necessary. Then when we came back today while driving in our car my husband realised that he doesn't know where his wallet is. He asked me in an accusing irritated tone where his wallet was and I only said to him "how should I know?", cause I didn't use it. He lost it completely and swore at me again shouting all the way home. I told him that he will not speak like that anymore, I will not tollerate it anymore. He went ballistic!!! He drove like a maniac! The kids wasn't strapped in their seatbelts 'cause we first dropped of friends of ours that just lives around the corner of us. So we didn't strap them again. He drove so wild that my little girl fell backward and hit her head. She had one of those princess crowns on which hurt her haid when she bumped it. She started crying. Then he shouted at me and said that I shouldn't accuse him 'cause she got hurt it's my fault because they are not wearing their seatbelts. Then on purpose he took the following turn like a maniac again and my little girl fell backwards again!!!!! He is crazy! How could he do it a second time on purpose?! Then when we were at our hose he told me"you are gonna get out of the car and I'm gonna take you and" he didn't finish his sentence. Which I know was a threat. He then got out and started to hit the car seat. When he got out my little boy asked me "mommy is daddy naughty?" This broke my heart and after what happened to my little girl and his threat towards me I know I have to leave him. For the first time now I realise that the situation is really getting dangerous. Inside the house he told me that I have to make my decision, that he knows I'm just looking for an excuse to leave him! The whole time he wants to make me the guilty one! I asked him if he will go see the docter at the end of the month when we've got enough money so that he can get medication to calm him like we've discussed and he just ignored me. I feel so down because after our last talk I've told you about I had so much hope. Now all of that is shattered because I will not put the children through this. They have suffered enough and I had enough of his manipulative ugly ways!

Last night I had a dream where I was dropping off my children at school. For some reason I went back to give them another hug and kiss before leaving for work and I was crying. I felt so much love for my children like just a mother could, but in my dream I was very emotional. I searched for my little boy and was scared that I won't be able to find him before school started. Then his teacher came to me and gave me prophetic word saying: that God is going to bless me so much. I was crying a lot, but felt happy because of the word she gave me then I was looking for my son again and a second time she called me and said that God is going to bless me so much, especially in my work (career). I was very happy and felt so special, but still emotional and then she showed me where my son was and I went to him to give him a hug and kiss.

I don't know why God would give me this dream especially the night before all the drama went on today with my husband. Just wish there was someone who me and the kids could stay with in town but there really isn't anybody. My mom and his parents stays in another town. I have a good job that pays well, but it won't be enough for me and the children. Maybe God wanted to tell me that if I do leave my husband I will have nothing to worry about financially 'cause he will bless me.

Please just pray for me and the children especially for our safety. Thank you so much for all the prayers that we've received over this period. Really appreciate it guys.

May God keep me and the children safe and may GOd bless all of you.

Love in Christ
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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Deborah on Sun Nov 21, 2010 1:09 pm

Sirianta,
May God bless you with wisdom and comfort and provide protection for you and your little ones during this time. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your children; you deserve better. I'm praying you'll find the refuge you need.

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Cholette on Sun Nov 21, 2010 2:42 pm

You definately need refuge because your husband is unstable. He is sick and he needs the Lord and he needs help. You really need to seek God on what to do. When it comes to the safety of my children and myself, a job and how much money I make just doesn't compare.

Blessings to you!


Do not fight FOR victory, but fight FROM THE PLACE of victory. Jesus has ALREADY won the battle!

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Re: Emotionally abusive husband

Post by Delightful soul on Sun Nov 21, 2010 9:38 pm

I came into the bathroom and saw my two kids and friends of ours (my husbands boss) daughter in the bath with lots of foam just having fun.
I used the above from your first dream posted by you on here.

Could this be what happened at the resort you went to?

Even my husbands boss told him this morning that it was really not necessary.

works' yearend function at a holiday resort.

I feel for you and will continue to pray. Father make the way open for her to walk where you want her and her children to go. Help this to be a peaceful exodus out of a volatile situation that she has expressed here.

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