Prophecy Concerning Romance

I was wondering if there is any lessons concerning personal prophecy and romance.
I am in a situation where a young man has been prophecied to that I am his wife ... I HOWEVER do not believe it to be true at all and I have no desire whatsoever to marry him.

The lady has also told him that the Lord will give him the desires of his heart and that he has me as a wife but I have yet to see it... ( she said this part when she thought I wasn't listening... which seems shady to me).
The lady that keeps prophecying these things to him I believe is going to ruin the friendship that we do have, because he believes I am his wife now and it is making things very uncomfortable.

I would like to know what can be said about this scripturally and also would the Lord want you to marry someone you have no desire to marry at all?

I am not against prophetic word confirming a situation, but in this case there is no witness in my spirit and this is not a confirmation to something I was praying about.

Clarity would be much appreciated on this subject!

Thank you in advance for any help you can give me!!!

I agee with Dreamster. I don't believe it is scriptural. The only scriptural bases for finding a mate is when the servant was sent to get Rachael, the servant was a "type" of the holy spirit. The holy spirit will let you know who your mate is. Someone else may know or have more on this.

Two things true prophets stay away from, telling people they will have babies and who their mates are... I don't have scripture but that is what I have been told...

Defintely stand your ground and I would be honest with your freind so that you can stay friends. Say something like: I know that is what she said, but I have to hear it from God myself and I have not heard that at all, can we just remain friends....

Just my thoughts, Lori

In the last days false prophets and false teachers will be sent out into the world.

I would simply pull this lady a side and tell her that it is not bearing witness with your spirit and it does not line up with the word of God. When a prophet prophesies and it is of the Lord, then you will have Bible scripture to back it up. It will not be something that they want to happen(prophesying from the heart). Also, I would pray and ask God concerning this woman and exactly what He wants for you....

Well I did let him know that I only want to be friends, but it still seems like he might believe what she said about my eyes just not being open yet.

PS: Dreamster your hilarious I don't know if I am going to say anything to the lady for now.

I agree that it is not biblical. Take her aside and tell her that. To do anything less is like supporting her false teaching or prophecy.

Just my thoughts.

Love in Jesus,

Connie

In the bible (Deuteronomy) it speaks about how to know if a prophet is authentic or not: "If the thing that that prophet spoke comes to pass, then it is from God, if not, that word is not from God and don't be afraid of the prophet."

sometimes the only way to tell if something is from God is to wait it out. I am not saying that that lady was completely right or wrong--but sometimes your spirit may not always attest or agree at first for whatever reason.

As Mia says, "you shall know them by their fruits"--do you know this woman personally? Does she do things according to the word of God or outside of it? have other things that she has prophecied come true? If so, she could be a "true prophet".

Have you ever thought about it this way: Just because you may not believe it now (that this man is your husband) doesn't mean that it won't happen in the future? This is just a thought. What the prophet said may have been true, but she said it out of the appointed time/season (too early so you may not receive it).

I would definitely pray. God knows your heart but he knows the end from the beginning as well. you may not like your friend like that NOW but you don't know what is in the future. Someone once said: If you receive a prophecy, don't try to MAKE it happen, let things take its course. If its from God--you will know. He does say in his word that he "tells us things before they happen so that when they happen we will know its of God." STill things should be done decent and in order and every prophecy should line up with what's in God's word (HE NEVER CONTRADICTS HIS WORD). God won't move against anyone's will--so to answer your question: NO, he wont make someone do what they don't want to do (in this case: marry someone that you don't want to marry.)

My friend told me this story this past summer of how her sister met her husband. My friend's sister was friends with this one guy for a LOOOOONG Time--all through childhood. As they grew up, the future husband started to like the girl more and more romantically but the girl always saw him as just a friend. Being a church boy--he would often go to church and spend days praying: GOD, YOU KNOW WHAT I FEEL, PLEASE LET THIS WOMAN BE MY WIFE--I KNOW THIS IS WHAT I WANT. Well, the girl was oblivious to what this guy was doing. She had no idea that he was praying for her to come around and say, "yes, I want to be your wife." At the time, she even had a boyfriend! The husband to be of course was uncomfortable hearing about her love affairs! One day the girl (my friend's sister) said that she was going back to the United States for work/college. Her best friend (the guy who wanted to be her husband), started praying harder then! He didn't want her to go because she would go off and meet someone else and be successful without him. He said: LORD IF THIS IS MY WIFE, LET SOMETHING HAPPEN WHERE SHE WON'T GO BACK TO THE US RIGHT NOW. LET HER KNOW SOMEHOW THAT I AM FOR HER.

Weeks passed and the time was approaching for the woman to leave but something happened. She has this weird feeling all day--she kept thinking about her friend more than usual in that "romantic way". She somehow didn't want to leave afterall because she knew she would miss her friend. She said that the Lord had spoken to her on her way to buying a ticket and that she should stay because her husband was her best friend!!! SHE WAS SHOCKED and had no idea that he had been praying for her heart to soften and come around for him (the guy later told her what he had been doing).

They now are happily married and the rest is history. SHe didnt believe it at first that she would marry her best friend who knew so much about her and her relationships--but God knew! Since its the "man that findeth the wife"--you don't know what your best friend has been praying for! Maybe he was "out of order" for telling you this information now and maybe he shouldve used more wisdom in what to say and how to say it and when to say it--but only God knows who is perfect for you.

I would definitely be doing some fasting and praying and ask God to show you who your husband is loudly, clearly, and plainly.

I hope you have been blessed and inspired to take a second look at things.

smooches
desiree

Continue in prayer and allow the Lord to minister to you. You have some really good advice here.

I don't consider myself a prophet, but I do prophesy A LOT and I make SURE I know that I know that I know it is from the Lord. I'm not the type to just blurt something out just because something "jumped" inside of me. I've prophesied to different people regarding having children even when the natural stated that they could never have children. I don't believe I've EVER said anything regarding a mate though...

Just be careful because the enemy is really out there trying to deceive...using people we have trusted in the past. Stay in prayer Love's Child!

Just be careful because the enemy is really out there trying to deceive...using people we have trusted in the past. Stay in prayer Love's Child!

you've said something profound there! We are ALL called to prophecy, but you are correct in making sure that you HEAR THE VOICE before you open your mouth!

God bless
desiree

Desiree (Starpop) wrote:
As Mia says, "you shall know them by their fruits"--do you know this woman personally? Does she do things according to the word of God or outside of it? have other things that she has prophecied come true? If so, she could be a "true prophet".

Have you ever thought about it this way: Just because you may not believe it now (that this man is your husband) doesn't mean that it won't happen in the future? This is just a thought. What the prophet said may have been true, but she said it out of the appointed time/season (too early so you may not receive it).

I don't personally know the woman (although interesting enough I found out my father dated her sister in highschool lol). My friend knows her well because her son is his good friend. I only met her because my friend goes to her church and I was at his open house. So it's kind of hard for me to know her track record when it comes to prophecy. I have the feeling that she might just be trying to help him out since she likes him and really does think it is of God ( but I can't say for sure that's what she is doing)
I did think about if it was possible for the future, but I just can't see myself marrying this person at all. I don't think it would even be fair to him, because I just am not drawn to him in that way. I prayed about it as well and nothing has changed.

To tell the truth when I graduated from college I was kind of glad we wouldn't see each other as much even though we are friends, because at times his personality could be a bit overwhelming for me. I do love him, but I just really cannot see us being in a relationship let alone married.

I think it is probably best that I take some extra steps back and pray concerning a mate period.

I will definitely take heed to all the things that were said... especially what you added on cholette!

Well then that's your answer right there!! I tend to stay away from prophecies from others I know or whom others know very well too--its good to get an unbiased prophecy!!Lol...be blessed and I know all will work out!
desiree

Love's Child -

I think you touched on a key part of personal prophecy in your first post - it should confirm something that the Lord has already given you. Your last post confirms that you shouldn't receive the prophecy as it's not pure, this seems to be more the woman's wish (and your friend's) than something of the Lord.

Desiree - thanks for your post, it was helpful!

I had someone prophesy to me that my ex husband is coming back,

then anoher said he was coiming back to me the follwoing Frday one year. ( he never showed up)
another told me he was coming back in two weeks,

it has now been 20 years, he done remarried 15 years after he left.
Another told me that he was coming back after I told them that he remarried. They said he was still coming back because his wife was not going to be around long, this happen 8 years ago, I was through.

Another time a male -coworker and I was talking at a store, a woman walked passed us , looked at him and said God showed me she was your wife, then looked at me and said, the Lord said he is a good man. We both look at each other like" what the.......? Mind you,, I'm a believer, he's not, he's younger, and since then moved back to North Carolina, haven't heard from him in six years, I don't even like him like that.

I'm done with prophesy about a mate............. people just need to keep quiet if they don't know what they are talking about.

Now I don't want to see no prophet about a mate, if you haven't heard from God I do not want to hear it.