I really need help with this!

hi fellow believers.I really feel bad everytime I talk about someone behind their back,is that gossiping?What if I just need to talk about something someone did to me just to get it off my chest?so my question is, what is the difference between gossiping and talking about someone?Is it the same thing,I do want to walk in love.[url=http://miasherwood.forumotion.net/javascript:emoticonp('')][/url]

The fact that you "feel bad" lets you know that it's not a godly action. Instead of going to someone and saying what another person has done, why don't you go to God. He tells us to cast all of our cares on HIM because He cares for us. Vent to the Lord...he's the only one who can change it anyway.

When you go to others, you risk sowing negative seeds in their hearts about the person you are discussing. No matter how strong you think they may be and how they are able to handle it, you are still changing the person's perspective towards that individual forever.

I hope this makes sense.

yep,it makes alot of sense.Thank you so much.Now I know what to do.You are right everytime I vent about the other person,it sows a negative perspective.

To add to what Cholette stated above...

What I've also learned about doing this is that when you get to a point where you've forgiven the other person and perhaps even restored the relationship, the people you confided in haven't 'progressed' with you so even though its your trial and you've walked through it now they're 'stuck' in bitterness/resentment towards the person and may even go so far as to question your change in heart and the actions you take regarding your situation...

Ohhhhh that's good Lurdys...very good.