Knowing your husband/wife beforehand

Does anyone have any thoughts/answers as to why God reveal husbands/wives beforehand to some and not to others?

Great Question Virtuous!! Being one who knows who her husband is I have asked the Lord this question a lot over the years and have not received a question to WHY.

I let go of the possibility of meeting this "dream man" for about six years because I never met anyone who knew who their husbands or wives were beforehand until I came to this site. None of my friends know or knew who their husbands were, but I did. It seemed strange to me and then to top it off, I was hearing different ministers saying that God is NOT into "arrange" marriages. I heard that so much that I just stopped believing and got into "wait" mode for whoever was going to come my way.

One day I was led to Genesis and began reading about how God created Eve from Adams rib. God went some place and built her in private and brought her to Adam and then he said "bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh". My eyes bugged out of my head because that to me is God creating someone especially for him. I know your question is "Why does he reveal to some and not to others" and the only thing I could ever come up with is that it's his sovereign will. There are plenty of people who never knew beforehand, but will tell you in a heartbeat that they were made for each other.

Maybe Daphanie could shed some light on this because she is the ONLY one I ever met that dreamed, met and married her dream man. I'm interested in what others have to say on this.

Blessings

I have a sister in Christ who knows too. She's known for years.

Oh, by the way...noone could ever tell me God is NOT into "arranged" marriages or there is no such thing as "a match made in heaven."

I just wondered if there was a significance to knowing beforehand...one knowing (man/woman)and the other(man/woman) not knowing...you know; that sort of thing.

Does anyone think if God reveals it to one he will reveal it to the other? Meaning...ok; Cholette, you for example...Do you think God has revealed to the man that you are to be his wife?

I've "known" three times... the first one with signs and wonders. I'm sick of knowing and being played by the devil, so I've given up.

Not on the entire concept, but I just really don't care... I really want a husband, but... like I said, I don't care.

Yes...he knows who I am. It's been confirmed through several prophets over the years. I even had a lady...come up to me (which is one of the reasons why I started back believing) say to me that I let go of a dream, but I needed to pick it back up again because he's on the way and he will know you when he sees you. The strange thing about it is I saw him from a distance at a gospel concert and we locked eyes. I think I was so stunned I ran the other way. Not sure what his reaction was, but LORD HAMMERCY that was a trip!!!

By the way Vile...don't give up on "the man" or the idea that you know about him. You don't have to be waiting on pins and needles, but please don't give up because it's for a purpose that you know. We really don't know why we were chosen to know, but we gotta know it's for a purpose, right?

Thing is, even Satan can pull signs and wonders. This whole "know" baloney has been a head trip too many times. I just need to stop worrying about it and let God be God.

Okay...Amen...Just trying to encourage you!!!

I appreciate it! I just need to stop looking for signs and wonders and look for God. :)

Vile wrote:I appreciate it! I just need to stop looking for signs and wonders and look for God. :)

That's a very profound statement.

I think it all depends on the plan that God has for your life and the individual. God tells some and then he doesn't tell others (until later) because they may not be able to handle the information at the time. God knows what's best for each of us--so what may work for one may not work for another--its all according to the plan God has for your life. Also, God gives us choices, so I believe its up to us to use discernment and wisdom (coupled with time of fervent prayer/fasting) to let God show us if whom we pick is the "Right one" for us or not. Someone once told me, "Anything of God is good." If God told us "every detail of the plan" there would be no reason to have faith or to trust in God completely right?

I am one that doesn't know whom my husband-to-be is, but I know when I will meet him (God has given me an exact time). For me, its all about trusting God to give me that man when He's ready for me to have him. I think that if I knew whom mine was I wouldn't be ready! Besides, I like the thrill of not knowing sometimes--I want to be thoroughly surprised!! I pray that when I DO meet the one that we both will know without a shadow of a doubt that we are for one another!

Whomever it is, God will bring you clarity and confirmation. I encourage you to read moderator Daphanie's story/testimony of how she met her husband. God showed her the signs/characteristics of her future mate even though she hadn't met him yet! She trusted in God and waited on HIM to move--Let God be your matchmaker and he won't disappoint and I don't believe she's disappointed in any way either!! :clap: Do what you need to do now so that you can prepare yourself--get in that kitchen and practice cooking, dress nice wherever you go, work on the fruits in your life, let God be your first priority, etc. I'm learning that if I want an "Excellent mate" I have to make myself excellent for my mate as well!!

God says that he "WILL fulfill the desires of the righteous". He'll give you what you want because you're asking for God's will to be done in your life.

I wonder too though, if whom I'm praying for God has revealed me to him as well or will we just know about eachother when God places us together during that appointed time?

I encourage everyone to read the stories of Esther, Ruth & Boaz, Jacob and Rachel, Isaac and Rebekkah, as perfect examples of how true Godly-ordained marriages/matchups happened/need to be! The stories blessed my soul and gave me a new perspective of just how God gives/shows us our mates!

Great topic!

Vile,
Though you are right when you say satan has his signs and wonders ( which by the way are counterfeit) but when God has his signs and wonders, peace follows--there's no confusion!

I agree with everything Cholette and Desiree have said. You know...I have just been thinking about the purpose of some knowing while others don't. THERE HAS GOT TO BE A PURPOSE. I am just curious to know.

God has allowed me to know who it wasn't but I'm not sure about if He's actually told me who he is. I thought I knew at one time but now I don't think it's him. Even if it was him, I think what I did is ONE of probably a million reasons why God doesn't reveal it to some of us. Maybe it's because we don't handle the information well.

God gave me a dream a few months ago and the man I saw in my dream was my husband. We weren't married in the dream but I just knew he was my husband and I felt like he knew it as well. I didn't recognize him (not ever meeting him IRL) but I knew it was him.

Sometimes I want to know exactly who he is and then there are times that I don't want to know and like Desiree, I want to be surprised...just mind blowing!

The only thing about this is the fact that I know if God doesn't tell me I'm to marry this man (whenever we meet)...IT'S A WRAP! I don't want to invest any time into a relationship and getting my emotions all tied up in a man if he's not the man God has chosen for me.

Cholette...you are a mess! You have me laughing so hard! You ran the other way?!

Yes Virtuous...I ran the other way. When your dreams meet your reality, it is a trip. My friend was calling me crazy all the way home. She kept saying that I messed everything up and I may have missed God because I ran, but I don't believe that. I believe whenever it happens it will happen and things will go smoothly. I think the fact that I saw him, and I got that close to him was God's way of saying "I got you girl...it's going to happen". You have to know that he is well known in my area...a public figure. So the chances of me being in the same place as him was ONLY God!!

I'm sort of happy I know because I'm 42 years old...I've never been married...it's time out for dating and going around figuring stuff out. If I was in my 20's or early 30's then that wouldn't be a problem, but I've crossed that "freedom" threshold and mama don't have time to weed through the crowd tryin to find out who's right and who's not. I agree with you Virtuous...me knowing and once he shows up...IT'S A WRAP!!!!

I can only imaging the thoughts going through your friends mind! Everytime I look at you I would "live" laughing! No, I don't think you missed God either. You're right...things will go smoothly (without the running !...I just can't get over that! I wish I could've been there and knew you at that time!

I'm sort of happy I know because I'm 42 years old...I've never been married...it's time out for dating and going around figuring stuff out.

I'm 36 and I'm with you on this. I just know how hard it is, for me- I'm saying, to let go of emotions I feel towards a man I've dated (and you know what else ). So I would just rather not get involved, even in dating, than to have to wrestle with letting go.

What I meant by it being a wrap is after meeting someone then seeking God about him being the "ONE"; if God doesn't reveal to me that he is...It's a wrap. The relationship (as far as dating) is over...Stick a fork in it cuz it's done.