Knowing your husband/wife beforehand

Sunshine2,
I hope your marriage is doing better. I mean...I don't know what to say. I am at a loss for words after reading your post.

Question...What made you all of a sudden want to make it a point to say "Brian"?

Just curious...

Virtuous...Well, it wasn't a concious thing. It;s like I was praying and I was just repeating the words that I would hear as I was praying and I would hear this name. AFter a while every time this same name would come up, I would hear it but I would never say it because I didn't know if I was hearing God or not. I was in fact hearing God, we have been married 10 years.

Oh, okay!

It appears that a multitude of us, here on this site, are praying and believing God for our husbands/wives. It's almost as if there is going to be a domino effect of marriages taking place.

On the other hand, I have a deep feeling of urgency that God is also about to move mightily in those who are already married. Contrary to what others may think, marriage is VERY important to God and He has a purpose for and in them that He IS NOT going to allow the enemy to keep destroying them. I believe that with all of my heart and soul.

You and your husband be blessed in Jesus' name!

Virtuous, thanks. I believe that too. It's something that just needs to happen. I can't wait to hear of other's testimonies and to have my own. :cute:

there is also the possability that the person ur waiting 4 has the choice 2 not be ur partner even thouh they r gods choice 4 u,,ther is still this free will aspect that god doesnt violate

Thats a point well made dreamster. We ALL have free choice--God doesn't push anything on us. If one door closes on one person, there is another better door that God can open for us! I think as Christians we sometimes limit God even in the choice of a spouse!

And Virtuous

As always, you're on point!! GOD DOES AND CAN restore marriages!!

My prayers are for you Sunshine2. The one thing we all need to understand is that marriage is NOT a fairytale and we need to work at it regardless if God puts it together or not. Thanks for opening us and sharing.

Although I agree with Dreamz and his comments about free will, I felt I needed to bring balance to what was said. I do believe that God gives us ALL free will...however I also believe that God is not a MAN that he would lie. If God takes the time to show someone who their mate is then he knows the decisions that will be made. He is an ALL knowing God. He puts HIS desires in us as we spend time in His presence. We have choice when it comes to mates and I believe that is true to those who don't know who their spouses are beforehand, but if God is BIG enough to show you, then we all need to know that there is a plan for the union. Yes, nothing is absolute in God, but his promises are...the promises of God are "Yea and Amen".

We just need to make sure we are hearing from God and not a strange spirit. I knew things about my mate's life before they have happened. Because he is a semi-well known figure, I am privy to read and hear things about his life and so far things have lined up. I saw his marriage to a woman who was no good for him six years before he married her and I saw the divorce. When I read about it, my mouth hit the floor. It was God's way of confirming the dreams to me and I am grateful to him for that. My job now is to prepare myself and get the right perspective of marriage and learn all I can about it. I'm not anxious for it because God said to be anxious for NOTHING...I'm in expectation like I am for every other promise God has given to me. When we are anxious, we prolong things and God doesn't want anything to be prolonged because He desires to get the glory out of the union.

AMEN AMEN!! CHOLETTE I agree Fully with you . I am gald you cleared this up. We need to seek the Lord to confirm what GOd has shown is what he wants for us. So I think if there is doubt about your future boo!! I think you should seek the LORD!! Although it might take time to get the answer but he will answer. For some you will get the answer right away. By the way I always ask God for confirmation because I want to be in Gods perfect will. So far when I ask him He always give me a dream or a word from someone.. As you all know I been challenged by this helpmate thing... Lord knows I want my helpmate, but it will be in Gods timing. So I pray those of you who know or maybe dont know to be encouraged.Alot of times the Devil will play mind games. So you have to bind up and loose God word...Love ya!! God is not a man that he shall lie!! I must say the more I been in preparation stage another layer of flesh comes off of me. My man of God and others will be happy~~ and of course GOD!!

um i actually i thought i, was bringing balance,, :clap:

I always heard, and felt to be true, that there are two people we can't choose on our own...our Pastor and our mate. Those two people should be left up to God.

Cases in point...My Pastor:
I was attending a church in one city and lived in another. I had been a part of this church every since I was a kid. This church was my home. It had gotten to the point where I could only make the Sunday morning and sometimes Sunday night services. No prayer meeting services. No Wednesday night bible studies. I knew that wasn't enough to carry me through the week. I prayed and talked to God about it. I told Him I wanted Him to either move me back to the city my church was in or place me in the church "He" wanted me to be. The place "He" knew I would be fed and grow. I visited a few churches and they all were Holy Ghost filled. One day I was invited to a Pastoral Appreciation by a friend. I went and as soon as I walked through the door I felt like I was at home. I knew this was where God wanted me to be. I got confirmation as soon as the service was over that God wanted me to plant my feet in this church. There have been trials to come soon after I became a member to the point where I wanted to leave but God told me I wasn't going anywhere. He said that I was going to sit there and I was going to get through it...and I did. I'm still there...

My husband:
I was wrestling with wanting to be married to a guy for a looooong time. I was praying about it to what seems like forever and just wondering when I would be married and to who. My daughter came to me one morning and told me she had a dream about me and this guy that I was so in love with who I thought was my husband for years. She said we were getting ready to get married. We were in the church and everything. She said we didn't get married. I asked her why. She said, "Yall was going to get married but yall didn't get married because you couldn't marry (?). (?) was crying because you couldn't marry him and he wanted to marry you." I asked her if I got married and she said, "Yes, ma'am. BUT YOU COULDN'T PICK HIM. THAT MAN HAD TO PICK HIM!" I asked her what man. And she said, "That man with that book in his hand." (I think she was seeing a Pastor (that man) with a bible (that book) performing the ceremony and I think the Pastor represented Jesus. I asked her if I tried to pick my husband and she said, "Yes, ma'am but everytime you pointed at one and asked him if you could marry him, he said no. You couldn't pick him. That man had to pick him." Each time I questioned her about my getting married anyway in her dream; she would tell me I did get married but she would make it a point to say, "YOU COULDN'T PICK HIM. THAT MAN HAD TO PICK HIM!"

Yes, I believe God gives us free will but I want my will to line up with HIS WILL. When His desires for our lives become our desires is the recipe for Him giving us the desires of our hearts because He's the one who put them there. It would make no sense for Him to cause us to hungar, thirst and desire something that He won't give us. He wouldn't torture us that way. There is a purpose for everything God does and the enemy knows it. That's why he tries to bring division in marriages and churches. He knows if the husband and wife that God has joined together (made for each other...bone of my bone - flesh of my flesh) is united they are going to wage war against him. If this union places God first in their lives there is nothing the devil can do to destroy it and the power of joined prayer between a husband and a wife is a force to be reckon with. They can recognize the enemies plots, plans, and schemes and pray/speak against them and the spirits that come with them together. A three fold cord is not easily broken!

If you're in under the leadership (Pastor) that God has placed you under the devil is scared straight. He knows you are going to get what you need, when you need it at whatever season in your life you're in. God knows what Pastor has what you need. The enemy don't want that any more than he want us to be united with the mate God created us to be with.

Good point V... So in other words what God has for you is for you. Perhaps he used you child for confirmation. Again I am a big on confirmation... Also if you are covered with the right leardership they will also know and confirm. So I pray God will also send a confirmation to my overseers. I remember I was attending Bible college last year and I remember this man who is not a memeber of my church and he told one of the members at my church that my husband Is a nice handsome man in other words he was confirming what God was saying. Listen its important to apart of a church that has great intercessors. Thats what they do pray for you and God will use them to help you. Also the day the man of GOd comes I will bring this man of God to my pastor. So he has to meet my family and my spirtual family. God will confirm through 2-3 witnesses. Trust in Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding.

Okay, so at first I wasn't understanding what you were saying Virtuous. It seemed like you were saying that the pastor is to choose your mate. I was disagreeing with you there for a minute because even in my church, they have premarital and the pastor can only suggest whether or not you are ready to be married, but he can't tell you who to marry or if you can be married...that's in my church.

I don't have anything against pastor's and their oversight in our lives, but we most DEFINATELY have to rely on God more than man for our answers and our confirmation. The Bible clearly states to not lean on the arms of flesh. I have been known to put so much stock in the man in the pulpit and when he does something that was against the Word of God then I was devastated. I hate being in that place in my mind because that shows me where I have put a person on a pedistal...higher in my mind then God ever wanted him to be.

I'm all for going to the Pastor, but to SOLELY put the decision or confirmation in his/her hands to weather or not to make your decision even when you know God has said yes, I have a problem with that.

If I'm misinterpreting what you are saying, help me out.

So in other words what God has for you is for you

I am a firm believer in that. NOONE can thrawt God's plan for your life...noone!

You're not alone because I look for confirmation as well.

Also the day the man of GOd comes I will bring this man of God to my pastor. So he has to meet my family and my spirtual family.

It's funny you mention that. I had a dream a few months ago. I dreamt I married the wrong man. I remember saying, "Oh, my God. I didn't even talk to Pastor about marrying him." So, I know how important it is to have my Pastor in prayer and we will seek God together to confirm who I'm to marry. In my dream, I was also worried about the ministry my husband and I have. If I marry the wrong person, the ministry...well, let's just say we have to marry the right person...

Hey, I'm about to start another thread. I want to see what other's think about that as well!

Cholette,
I think you misunderstood me or I wasn't very clear. The man with the book in my daughters dream; I interpreted him to be God...not a Pastor. I don't think God would put that kind of responsibility in the hands of a Pastor. Only He knows that.

Giiiirrrrrrrrrl, don't make me take off running in this place!!!!!!

I don't have anything against pastor's and their oversight in our lives, but we most DEFINATELY have to rely on God more than man for our answers and our confirmation. The Bible clearly states to not lean on the arms of flesh. I have been known to put so much stock in the man in the pulpit and when he does something that was against the Word of God then I was devastated. I hate being in that place in my mind because that shows me where I have put a person on a pedistal...higher in my mind then God ever wanted him to be

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This happened to me too after I first joined my church. God used a very dear relative of mine to reveal to me that I had put too much trust in my Pastor and put her on a pedestal. God told her to tell me to remove my Pastor from His place in my life. What a huge eye-opener for me. So I totally agree with you on this. I totally agree with everything you said.

I will go to my Pastor and seek God about my mate but the ultimate voice I will follow will be God's.

I'm glad I misunderstood because we usually see eye to eye on some stuff...