Knowing your husband/wife beforehand

Oh my goodness Virtuous!!! We are so much alike!!!

I won't even go into it, but we are SO MUCH ALIKE!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not surprised! I kinda figured that myself...

THERE'S TWOOOOOOO OF UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUS...Look out world - Here we come!

First of all I just wanted to say to Virtuous and Cholette that you are awesome women for being 43 and 36 and STILL waiting on the one! I couldn't do it--I've been burning far too long already!!! May God continuously bless you both!

Well thank you Desi...so much! The only thing is...even though I love being in my 40's and I feel the best I've ever felt before, I just wanted you to know that I'm 42 not 43...at least not until another 7 months or so...

Since we are on this topic, I wanted to share a really niiiiiice story that I heard from one of our church members last night. I noticed a glow about him. I joked with him and asked him was he pregnant or something...hehehe. He told me that he was getting married...I was shocked because I never saw him with anyone and he is a pretty reserved type of guy. We sat down and he shared with me the beautiful testimony. He said that after his divorce 6 years ago, which included a horrifying custody battle, he decided he never wanted to be married again. Back in December, he had to go to the east coast for a meeting and he told himself that he was going to go and visit his sister and bro-in-law. The night before, he was praying for them and the Lord spoke to his heart and said that he wanted him to tell his sister to take him to the neighbors house. He was shocked, but since he is heavily into evangelism, he felt it was to pray or lead someone to Christ.

When he went to his sister's house the next day, he asked his sister to take him over there. She was shocked because it didn't make since to her. She took him over there and he said the most beautiful woman answered the door. He froze...he couldn't get two words out of his mouth. He figured that it wasn't her that he was there for so he finally said "is the man of the house home?" She told him the only man of the house was her three year old son. He quickly said okay and left.

He goes back to his hotel and begins praying and praying asking God what was he doing and if he missed him. God said "you are the man at the door"...of course he didn't know what that meant so he went back the next day and apologized to young lady and said that the Lord had asked him to come to her door and he didn't understand why, but if she needed prayer for anything he would pray. Instead of prayer, they finally switched phone numbers and to make a LONG story short...he had to leave out early the next morning, but they stayed on the phone all night until it was time for him to leave for the airport. He said that she told him that God spoke to her heart a year ago and said, "I am sending your husband to your front door"...that is all God told her. She is much like me because she analyzed it and didn't think it was literal, but it was. Once she told him that, he understood what God meant when he said "you are the man at the door". He said after seeing her at the front door, he knew in his heart that she would be his wife, but when they spoke on the phone and everything lined up...oh my!!!!!

They met in December and he flew out there in February to ask her for her hand in marriage. I used to think that you had to date someone for awhile to make it official and to see if they were the right person, but I think that I'm wrong on that. If God confirms this blatently that someone is your mate, why do you need to date for an extensive amount of time? I understand that you have to get to know that person, but does it take that long? They are going through the proper steps of premarital counseling, which at my church is pretty extensive.

I think this story is SO GOD!! This is how he puts people together in this season...supernatural and quick. I just thought I would share with all of you...I thought this was a GREAT STORY!!

If ever you needed evidence that God has a sense of humor... *LOL*

Hi everyone you know I had to add. Yes I truly believe God does reveal that helpmate. It took me about clse to 2 1/2 yrs to understand and the same question I asked and God would confirm everytime to me or through prophecy. In fact I know what his calling is. I was married before. So I asked God to reveal to me who My lovemate, helpmate would be, because Encounter the wrong men before. SO About 2 yrs ago I told God dont allow no men to come my way unless it was my husband. But little did I now. He sent him to me. BUt I Had no wisdom of my spirtual gifts. I was very young in the spirit. So I ask GOd why did he allow me to meet him and we not together and I realize that he had more work in me. I am gald he did this way. I mean I have more evidence to give concerning my Man of GOD. To conclude I am happy to know who he is although it has been challenging waiting. GOd taught me to wait on his timing, because I was a go getter meaning I see him and I will get him. Thank GOD I am no longer like that. I have my guard up and I can tell when a man approach whats his agenda because of the gift of discernment. God imparted in me many gift for his Glory. Lately for about 3weeks now I have rcv signs and confirmation about my helpmate and they been coming back to back. I saw this pretty green dress I like. I was like God I would like to be wearing this dress when he comes. I find it quite strange bit i really drawn to this dress and I just really got into the green. I mean the dress its long and flowie. Like a summer dress. I told God I really want to look nice and he be looking good to when I see him. lol!! THis man of God is handsom, smart, has wisdom, and he loves the Lord. Anyday I expect him. I been asking GOd when he will come and gave me a confirmation. So I will let ya know soon!! By the way I am 30 with no children And I took sometime to get me together and I can feel in the spirit that he coming real soon. I realize hes coming at the best time because this spirtual war is no joke and I feel he is coming to help me take down demons for the Lord. I have changed my whole view on marriage. My helpmate and I we got work to do. Now with this said. I pray all of you rcv your helpmate real soon in Jesus name.

cholette I love that story Thank you for sharing!! I love when GOd does that. I am smiling all day since you shared that.

Desiree,

It has not been easy. When you know what it feels like to have icing put on your cake ; not having it when the cake is screaming for it, sometimes drive you crazy. I have 4 kids. So you know I know what it feels like. I'm just soooo tired of being hurt.

I want the man God has chosen for me because I know He can't make mistakes. I used to pray and ask God not to send me an ugly man or a man who couldn't satisfy me in bed because that really bothered me. I mean, no one wants an ugly man or someone who can't satisfy them intimately, right? But God knows what I like and I truly believe when He sends him to me he is going to be more than I could've ever imagine. I just get so excited sometimes that I can't do anything but smile.

I do realize that we as women and men of God - we can't marry just anybody. I had a dream about a month ago (I posted it) about marrying the wrong man. I learned through that dream that the ministry my husband and I have will be aborted if I marry someone else or vice versa. All I could think about in my dream was, "Oh, no! I married the wrong man. What's going to happen to our (me and my husband) ministry?" I was so scared that I had messed it up and in all actuality, I WILL mess it up if I don't seek God for confirmation concerning who I'm suppose to marry.

I'm feeling like lovetoworshipjesus. I think the times are coming upon me that my husband and I will be joined together. Just as Cholette said about the young man and woman who met and became engaged within a few months; I don't feel that my husband and I will have a long dating period. God is going to confirm and give us His permission and His blessing for us to unite without dating long.

These past couple of months - sometimes even daily since God cancelled the assignment of the enemy from my life - I have been talked to about marriage. People who don't know me very well, just start talking to me about getting married, the role of a wife, the role of a husband, our role together in ministry and everything. I know it's only God preparing me to receive my husband.

I'm willing to wait. What do I have to lose? Absolutely nothing. God is going to blow OUR socks off!!!!!!!

I'm willing to wait. What do I have to lose? Absolutely nothing. God is going to blow OUR socks off!!!!!!!

...I couldn't agree more--AMEN Sister!

cholette, thanks for sharing that wonderful inspiring story! Again, it all depends on the couple--some take a while to "know" eachother and some dont (let me be apart of the ones that don't ) but yet one thing is true for both: THEY JUST KNEW and the meetings were so "unexpected"! :clap:

Love you guys from the bottom of my heart!

Amen!! Well said Desiree. I want to be apart of whatever Gods has... I know one thing I find myself lately realizing that I miss my helpmate alot. but never the less I thank God for this awesome meeting!! My helpmate and I are going to be so bless. He will be a godly friend, caretaker, provider, business partrner, chef, workout trainer, romancer, priest of our home. etc oh yes of course my husband!! Yes I ask God to allow this great worshiper of Jesus to be a full package!! AS I delight mysled in GOd he will give me the desires of my heart!! I pray the same for everyone on this line waiting for the perfect helpmate. That your heart desires will blow you away!! gotta go stay living for the Kingdom. By the way I told GOd please send the man fo God right away because I need help slaying the enemy!! I notice As I go up in the Lord the bigger the demons get. I believe thats why God allows us to rcv our helpmate not only to fulfill for his glory but there strength in numbers especially when there is a covenant. A cord that can not be broken

Lovetoworshipjesus,

My Pastor always say...New Level; new devil!

I've heard the same thing from my former Pastor too Virtuous!!

Okay, so since the beginning of this topic on knowing your husband/wife beforehand...I've been listening out for the Holy Spirit to confirm some things to me regarding this topic because there are SO MANY naysayers that have been in my life when I first told family and friends WAY BACK when I first started dreaming of mine. I was like a "Joseph"...I told everybody and was persecuted to no end.

Virtuous recommended a book to me a while ago called "Women: God's Secret Weapon" and this morning the Holy Spirit reminded me of one of the chapters in the book where the author mentioned how he met his wife. He had seen her in a group picture and the moment he saw her, the Holy Spirit said to him that she was going to be his wife. Now, I forgot all of the particulars of how they hooked up, but the one thing I remembered was that he went to his pastor's house on a "spontaneous" visit and she was there. The awesome thing to this story was around the SAME TIME he saw her picture, she saw a picture of his youth group and the Lord spoke to her and said "the tall guy is the one I have for you". It took them awhile to get married because they were young, but they have been married for awhile now with four grown daughters.

This is a beautiful example of God speaking to BOTH people regarding the other. In my case, I know who he is because he is a public figure who "use to be" well, well, well known. He has pretty much fell off of the radar, but I still see him around in the media from time to time. It will be interesting to find out if God showed me to him in some way. I'm no public figure by no means, but maybe in a dream or a vision.

Just thought I would share. If I am shown or reminded of anything else, ya'll know I'm coming back here...

Just beautiful *sniff, sniff!lol

Cholette,
That chapter is one of the reasons that prompted me to start this thread!

He prayed and asked God to reveal his wife to him because he didn't want to go through dating woman after woman in search for the "ONE". God honored his request.

I'll have to go back and re-read it, but I think they were both attending a wedding party for a mutual friend or something like that.

Cholette,
I love the new avatar!