Husband continues to be depressed and blame me for it

Any ideas on how I can help?

why does he blame u???its his depression..wats makin him sad???um u cant realy blame someone else 4 it,,otherwise u wood be depressed 2 ,,if u see wat i mean,, i kno ur not,,so the issue has2 be wiv him,, i need mor info sweety,, Dr D..

Maybe he's nervous about having a baby, getting a new van - that's more responsibility. Sometimes it's hard for men (well anyone) to adjust to changes. Maybe he is just feeling a bit overwhelmed and isn't sure how to deal w/it. He maybe blaming you cuz it's easier to blame someone than accept that your the one doing it to yourself. To get to the core I would ask him what exactly it is that you are doing that is making him depressed. Odds are it's not you, but perhaps just he's feeling pressure w/the new changes coming. I'm sure this is exciting to you expecting a baby and getting ready, but like I said he maybe internalizing it and maybe there's some resentment if he feels it's all on him to take care of things (job wise bringing home the bacon). Honestly this doesn't sound odd - lots of people go through this w/big changes. Unless there is more to this I wouldn't assume it's a chem imbalance, just life pressures. Well and the drinking doesn't help. We know to go to God with these things, so just keep praying for him, and in the meantime try to sit down and have a heart to heart w/him.

I'll be praying for you and your family! God Bless you!

:clap: very good mrs bean,, u wood make a good counciller,, :clap: D..

Yes Sunshine. He is not focused on the Lord now. I get my new car this week and I will be free to go to church.Glory to God!

I prayed for him today and all Hell broke loose!
Thank you it was a very hard day.

I hope things are better for you .

Do you have a pastor whom you can talk to?


In thinking about your response.

I am sorry any advice I gave became a problem.
In my thinking I would go before the Lord. In my own privet prayer time.

Oh no sunshine! I appreciate your help.
I prayed for him and his dad early in the am
(before I read your post.)
He made a choice to yell at me when I was 5 minutes late getting home he wasnt watching our child while I was out and she opened the door and was outside when I got home.
These are things he did no you! I am trusting God to change him.