Being Single

WOW Escogida, you have expressed something that is not only happening in YOUR congregation. I am recently divorced and I've noticed the same thing. Even while being married I used to say, what about the singles? I think there needs to be MORE enrichment classes for the singles than anything else because, as you mentioned, many are losing hope and settling or just throwing their hands up and saying God doesn't care.

Since there isn't much for me in my unmarried state right now, it has allotted me the time to sit at the feet of God and learn from him. All we can do is pray and believe God that he is putting some things together for us. Believe this...if we are feeling the deficit in the amount of info that is out there, you KNOW He does.

i look forward to what others have to say about this. Great topic!!!

Hi Some of you may know by now I know who my helpmate is and this idea not sure if this is the holy spirit telling me to call him. Truth is I called him before in the past and I have not been successful. I dont want to be trick by the enemy again. I have not spoken to him since last year June 2008 So I need your prayer. It s been tuff for me because I know who he is and I actually have his telephone number and I been very good about not calling him. I know God said He who finds a wife will rcv favor from the Lord. I really been doing good and I dont want to mess up. I know there is a season for us to come together. Just incase you are wondering my helpmate has been confirmed manytime through dreams and visions and prophetically through others. I know he is coming soon I just dont know when. Because I know who my husband is I made the mistake trying to help God out and calling him and trying to tell him what God promise and reality it was not my place nor the season. So I learned the hard way. So please people of God I need your prayers now. Perhaps he is on the way and the enemy is trying to distract me. I dont know please help!!!

LovetoWorship...

I can identify with you because I know who my husband is too...I have known since 1991. We don't know each other like you know yours, but the time is coming. I no longer worry about it, nor am I consumed...I just trust God and I sense that he is very near, but even that won't get me off of my mark.

The only thing I can share with you is something that my pastor told me a long time of go...whenever you are anxious about anything, you are not ready to receive it. Jesus left us peace...he also said to cast the whole of your care upon HIM because he cares for you and do be anxious for NOTHING. The fact that we know who our mates are is a blessing and that means that there is a divine purpose for God revealing this to us. Rest assured that God will not and cannot lie.

In your "signature" you say "I Live For Jesus"...continue to do that and at the right and appointed time, he will arrive. I wouldn't call him, write him or do anything until you are in that place of peace and not being anxious because you don't want your emotions to lead you. He will find you...trust that.

Escogida,

I'm not sure why the church as a whole do not have MORE for the singles. I know that my pastor says that the word over the pulpit is a singles ministry all by itself, but as a single woman there are trials and temptations that I face everyday that needs to be addressed among my single peers or by a message directed to the single state.

We have a singles ministry, but it's not active...which is sad. We need to pray for change in all of the churches. There are some really good ministries out there that have wonderful singles groups, but for the most part there isn't anything. I would like to see someone have "singles retreats" where we go away and receive from the Lord...that's just me! That might me a mess if we have males and females that don't have renewed minds and who go just to "hook up".

I guess what I'm saying is that maybe since we question "why", maybe that is a call for us to pray. The fervent prayers of the righteous have MUCH POWER!!!!

I have been to some churches (or should I say "Assemblies") that have programs and activities designed JUST FOR SINGLES. Not only does it bring "like minded individuals together" but it helps those who are single to focus on God (appreciating their singleness) and meet and greet within the group to find future spouses and have general fun (without worrying about whether or not they're staying out too late away from the spouses! )

It is sad that there are some assemblies that don't have these programs available for singles--that's why some go back into the world, have rushed marriages (as mentioned to not feel "left out" or to burn), and totally miss out on God's will for their lives because of no direction and support (this is true for my parents home church). There's people that just don't have the desire to "put programs together" or to get involved--there ARE people that are hungry and have the desire but don't know where to turn.

We need to have some strong bible-believing and faith filled christians to start to REALLY pray and begin these singles' programs in the church. So I definitely agree with you on the praying part CHOLETTE! I personally enjoy being single (this hasn't always been true) but when I recognized that I can do so much now for God instead of waiting until I was married, my attitude started changing! Marriage takes a lot of work and some just aren't ready for that. Lets not waste any more time "passively waiting" and get involved as much as we can for the kingdom of God and before you know it, the one that God has for you will show up out of no where--and that's when you'll be ready!!! :clap:

God bless
thanks for posting
desiree

Amen !! Cholette Thank you for your words of wisdom and I will not call him I will Wait. Thank you I realize when God wants us to something it will be so strong in my spirit that I have to do what he tells me to do. I rcv a recent word from the Lord a few weeks ago that my helpmate is coming, So my favorite in the entire world King Jesus is making room for him and other great blessing Thank you Lord. I pray for ever single person who is waiting for there helpmate that you will give them the desires of the heart in Jesus name Amen!! Love ya!!

LovetoWorship...

I thought about you this morning when I read this scripture. I think all of us single people could really benefit from this...

"But as for me, I trust in You O Lord, I say, 'You are my God.' My times are in your hand".
Psalm 31:14, 15a

The commentary that is in my Bible regarding this scripture says:

"In saying 'my times are in Your hand', David was expressing his belief that all of life's circimstances are under God's control. Knowing that God loves and cares for us enables us to keep steady in our faith regardless of our circumstances. It keeps us from sinning foolishly by taking matters into our own hands or resenting God's timetable."

As singles we need to know that GOD'S LOVE NEVER FAILS!! We truly and honestly can't grasp how much He loves us. He won't fail us. It would behoove us to do what Jesus said to 10 servants in Luke 19..."Occupy until I come"...this means, get busy until I show up for you. :clap:

Keep on Faithing...

Amen Thank you

Thanks for your input, I guess we all agree that prayer is the one answer!

You have expressed what has been on my heart for years.........

I am in australia and it is the same here where the church is totally family oriented.

I went to a church service with my boyfriends daughter a few weeks back (it has been my first relationship in ten years after being single) and I was welcomed like I have never been before????

I really do believe that that many people are threatened by single people and that the church is being exclusive by being afraid of single people. I have also found that being older and in my 30s that the older I have become the more I have been pushed aside and well, realistically am too old for the young groups if you know what I mean...........

I don't know what to say except you have spoken what has been on my heart for years and well, it is time we prayed and stood for Him to bring peace into this area, not only that for Him to give us all the desires of our hearts in this area...........

C

I hear you girls loud and clear on this subject. I have been married going on 4 years now, but reading this brought back a lot of emotions.

I think I could of filled a swimming pool with tears over those many years. 15 years to be exact.

The last couple of years I was at the end of my rope. I did a bit of self destructing.

Like you guys I would only date who God had for me, so it was a lonly 15 years.

When God did bless me it was amazing, I can honestly say I would do it all over again for the girl God sent me. I would even wait another 15 years for her now that I know what I know.

I think as singles we gain a relationship with Jesus, that those who married young will never have.

When they are having dinner with there spouse, you are having dinner with Jesus.
They tuck each other in at night, but Jesus tucks you in at night.
Now that I'm married I miss all the time I had with Jesus.

I get all teary just thinking about it.

The times we laughed together, or cryed together.
I think of the jokes we told each other, and the prank he pulled on me. (I still laugh about that one every time I think of it)

God will bless you more then you can even phanthom, enjoy the time you have alone with him now, Because when your married you will have less time for him.

We were married in a buetyfull castle, we honymooned in the Caribean for 2 weeks, and we have an 8 week old baby.

God is great.
Me and wife


Both my daughters

Wowsers what an encouraging story! Wait on Him hey! :cute:

Have you talked to your Pastor and ask her/him to seek God with you about starting the Singles Ministry you desire to have in church?

What true flight said brought tears to my eyes because its all so true. Am a single, and i know who my husband is too, tried to help God and am sure love2worship can back me up on the fact that it doesn't work.

Am at peace now, and i know i'll miss my times with God, He knows me through and through. And most times i think He wants us settled in our love and knowledge of Him, so that even when we are married and have less time for Him, we'll have already gained enough to see us through.

He sees the end from the beginning not vice versa, please remember that.